Giving At The Holidays
posted by ladylessons in Real Life Lady LessonsTomorrow is December 1st, and so it harkens to The Season…Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanza, Solstice, New Year’s— whatever you do or do not celebrate falls pretty much inside of this one month.
Recently, I asked some male pals “What does your gal do for you during the holidays? Does she cook or decorate or dress up for you?” What I was really asking was this: does the woman in your life GIVE during the holidays to make your shared time more memorable?
A Lady knows that even if she works outside the home and is meeting herself coming and going in and out of the door, that her man works hard, too. Many women I’ve spoken to recently (on another forum) complained that “well, it’s all up to me…if I don’t buy, wrap, decorate, invite, cook, etc., nothing gets done…all he does is sit there.”
While I’m sure there are some lazy fellas around as well as some guys who could care less about holidays, most guys really DO want to have something special going on when the holidays come. By creating that intangible ”glow” that a loving home environment offers, that is something a woman can GIVE a man that is utterly priceless.
How can she do this and why should she do this?
How: using her own talents to clean and decorate appropriately…she can make decorations so that money isn’t spent on unnecessaries and so that the home environment is unique to her family. Those decorations can be spiritual or funny, they can be photos, drawing, things the kids have made, crafts and ornaments she has made…it doesn’t matter. The fact that the positive love and time and energy has been put into the decorations and it’s all about that “home” is what IS meaningful. She need not worry about it being House Beautiful. She should be concerned about pleasing HER family.
She also needs to be sure there is plenty of food and beverage in the house for the family and at least a few “drop in” guests. This makes her man feel relaxed because then he knows that he doesn’t have to go out and ”get stuff”. If her man is relaxed and rested, he will be much more likely to join in with the festivities and family activities and so in turn she (and the kids) reap that reward.
She also needs to keep her mind on her love life. Yes, everyone’s busy and most of the time there’s lots of family zooming all over the place. But, this doesn’t mean that she can’t wear that special something for her man and at least let him know that she’s thinking of him in that way. He’ll certainly be happy with that ”present” and it will again return to her in the form of his attention, emotional response and warmth.
If her guy is really tired and exhausted from work and there are kids around, she can also be sure that he has his “cave time” where he can do something that’s just his own activity (home or out) and away from the kids and her so he can refresh himself. Men need this cave time regularly…it’s how they recharge for going back out into the world, and sometimes the noise and activity of the home can get in the way of this. A good thing she can do is just ask him: do you need some alone time? And if he does, let him be. Believe me, he’ll come back fully recharged!
It’s not all one way, of course. In each instance that I’ve mentioned, the man will respond in kind as long as he knows she’s doing these things from a positive and loving point of view and not resenting it all. Believe me, Ladies, he KNOWS if you resent doing these things!
A man whose woman is giving him the right kind of space when he needs it, being sure that there is food and drink available, decorates with economy and a focus on the home they have together and who gives of herself sexually with love to him will have a husband/boyfriend who will respect, admire and enjoy her.
It’s all worth it. Because it will all come back to you, Ladies. He’ll treasure you, tell anyone he knows that you are the best woman he knows and he will do and give you more than you can imagine because he will NOT want to lose that special warmth, caring, safe place to be and gain rest from the weariness of the world: YOU.
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Good article. There are two points, however, which need a man’s perspective:
1. Men don’t get as excited by the holidays as women do. That’s fairly true. When there’s so much to do, and so many ways to make money and advance your life in the direction you want it to go, it isn’t always easy to turn that off and observe holiday rituals. Doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try, though. All work and no play, you know.
2. Women don’t give men enough attention. That’s fairly true, as well. Too many couples turn themselves off to one another–each is waiting for the other one to initiate the giving. When men give of themselves to their ladies, the feeling isn’t always reciprocated for one reason or another. You ladies know already that there are times where you’re completely unresponsive. It might be that you were expecting him to do something different than he did, or maybe your mind’s on something else.
Men, on the other hand, respond great to attention, especially of the sexual variety. We’re hard-wired for it. Give your man an inch, and he’ll give you a mile in return.
Just don’t use that to “train” him. That’ll backfire on you eventually.
Have a good Christmas, Vic!
First of all, you sound like a very feminine person, and I think that is great. I’m not very feminine, I mean don’t get me wrong, I have some feminine traits, like uhh…I’m quite artistic and I love babies…but thats about it. I don’t like cooking, I HATE cleaning, but I love to go out doors, I love taking up leadership positions, I’m very competitive and I just seem to love everything that a girls not supposed to. But I love the way I am (which is odd for a 17 year old girl…I know :P). And I just wanted to say that I think it’s great that you haven’t conformed to what a lot of people would deem unfit for a woman of today.
Ok, so about your post. I think that is very sweet if that is what you do. And I think everyone should do that, but I was wondering, do you think guys should do that as well for their girlfriends or wives?
Hello, Clair!
Thanks for reading the blog entry and for your comments.
I really chuckled, though, with your comment that I seem “very feminine”! Yours truly was (and is) a “tomboy” of the first order. As a kid (and this is still true well into middle age) if I can be outdoors doing things, THAT is where you’ll find me…I own two horses (which have been mentioned in posts on the MABTW Forum several times) and my riding activities are not “simple” or particularly “feminine”…I ride in the desert mountains and I ride to the hunt and have shown horses in Hunter Trials and 3 Day Eventing…3 Day Eventing is so dangerous that the Olympics have thought to eliminate it several times. As a young person I danced professionally (jazz, ballet and theater dance) with the Joffrey Ballet in NYC and with the Washington Civic Theater in DC. Anyone who has been around these activities will tell you there’s nothing “quiet and feminine” about it…it’s darned hard, tough, physical WORK. I still performed off and on for quite some time and well into my 40’s. I also competed in swimming and diving, track and field, and gymnastics in high school, college and a bit beyond that.
I currently live on a ranch. Not only do I do my own complete horse care at home, I am also a gal who goes out and helps to pull trees and bushes, handles raking and shoveling of mud in driving rainstorms (did that this weekend in fact) and works right alongside the men who are here. No “Princess Girl” lives on a ranch, I guarantee it! I’ve been my own vet tech for all sorts of animals and have worked in a zoo caring for wild animals. I’ve helped more baby animals into the world than I can count, and there’s nothing girly-girl about being out in the cold at 3 a.m. helping a mare to foal (and nothing more magical when the foal arrives, either!). In my youth and teens I raised and trained and worked with hunting dogs along with working with horses. You can’t be a namby-pamby doing all of those things. But, those are just the “physical” things.
Most of my working career has been in the law, both in and out of Court and in “heavy” areas: medical malpractice and family law (with a focus on Men’s Rights—and as you will know if you’ve read my posts, I’ve taken leadership positions in my profession in both areas for my State). Neither area is one in which a gal can just sit back and bat her eyelashes and fill out forms. It’s organized combat within a civilized war. And, since you are 17 I doubt you can understand what it was like when I wanted to be in the law and I was the ONLY female in the entire law school. I worked many jobs all through school and paid my own way to get a Biology degree (again I was the only woman in the program) and a Pre-Law degree as well as Law School. Not “Princess” jobs, either…a morgue, the ER of a hospital, janitorial work…). I have studied the Martial Arts all my life and still do…complete with sparring with men all out. I’m good enough in fighting that it has saved my life twice when attacked in public, so I have no problem doing what has to be done there.
Overall, I was one of those very rare women doing those things in my generation, believe me, so I wasn’t some femmy girly sitting at home doing her nails, believe me.
So, NO, Claire, if you may have a picture of me all domestic and in a apron standing in the kitchen and smiling vacantly at my man waiting breathlessly for his approval and actions, nothing could be further from the truth!
To be honest and fair, I do have some “feminine” things to me, of course. I have always done my own hair (cuts, etc) and am quite good at hairstyling, etc. I love to draw, love art in general, love music and now play the violin. I love history and especially the Victorian Era and sew historically accurate clothing from that period. I do enjoy cooking, but what really got me into learning much more deeply how to cook was discovering that I am a Celiac and need to have a gluten free diet…so, I learned to cook all my own food…which actually made things MUCH more healthy for my husband and I, and also during which I discovered a talent for cooking and baking and found I enjoyed it (as did he). I also love decorating and color and fabrics, so working on how my house looks and is decorated is a big thing with me. I am physically a petite gal (5′2″ if I stand very straight) and have a trim, in-shape hourglass figure, and I’ve been told by both men and women that I LOOK quite feminine, which is just fine with me…makes for more of a surprise when I can be quite athletic and surprise them! SO, yes, Clair, there is definitely a “feminine” side to me.
The primary message I was meaning to convey has nothing truly to do with specifically cooking and cleaning, nor am I saying that a woman can only show her love by doing those things for a man she cares for. It is about the INNER meaning of giving…that is to say, thinking about creating COMFORT during the holidays for the one you love and listening to him and focusing on what he needs and wants as a person. I suppose I could write a duplicate blog entry which would list what my husband does for ME in thinking and giving to ME…but this is a men’s board and I wanted women who visit her to see that they need to think about what their MEN want and like, and to not be just focused on how many pieces of jewelry they can get from him.
(Oh, and if you want to know, I also generally hate to clean, but love a clean house and since I don’t have a maid and don’t want one, well, it’s partly up to me…but, guess what? My husband HELPS…we split chores so that each of us does what we like and are good at as much as possible—we are a TEAM. He is willing to do this kind of teamwork because I am willing to help HIM where I can).
So, to answer your last question, Clair, yes, in a manner of speaking, of course men should be thinking and giving to their gals as well. But, how a man should give and what he gives to show his love for a woman is a bit different than what a man wants from a woman in this area. I think that (for me) just knowing that I’ve done whatever I can do to make the days and times of the holiday peaceful, fun, sexy and enjoyable for my husband is my gift…to see him smile, the softness and light in his eyes when he hugs me or kisses me and the tangible sense of HIM feeling content and relaxed…those are my gifts. Because when he is feeling like that and knows I’ve had him in my mind and heart as best I can, he then turns around and has ME in HIS mind and heart…and goes out of his way to do special things for me. THis is what I meant by saying that whatever you do for him that is given in nonjudgmental and freely given love all comes back to you. Over time, over the years, you’ll be building a deeper and deeper sense of trust, safety and connection with one another.
I hope this has helped make it a bit more clear. Thanks again for reading and commenting! Hope you keep coming back as more entries are made! Have a great holiday, Clair!
Cheers!
VL
That was a great artical VL. My husband and I have an unspoken ritual we do every Christmas…..we get eachother nothing ( gifts anyways). We never talk about it, we just had the same idea, we focus on our boys.
Let me tell you it is worth watching my hubby pick out toys for the boys. My husband is into professional R/C car racing and they came out with a little version of my husbands R/C car, he was so excited and orderd two of them for our oldest boys. When they arrived at our house he opened the box and was saying ” this is so perfect, they are going to LOVE this!”
He is happy, my boys are happy, and they have a special hobby
they can do together and I can be their biggest fan and cheerleader on the side. That to me, is more rewarding than any gift someone could buy me.
lol…u sound like me kinda. im about 5′2″ 5′3″, hour glass figure, about 110 pounds…so yeh, people are kinda suprised when they learn that I’m not a girly girl.
Thanks for answering the question though. You sound like a very nice person.
umm, this just sorta popped up into my head just then, you know how you said you were the only girl and stuff? well, I’m assuming because your here, you’re against feminism, but isn’t it because of feminism that you were able to do that? (that may well come off as hostile…but its not, its genuine. Feel free not to answer tho. Im just curious is all. )
(p.s- hats off to the whole animals thing…I’m not an animal person)
I’m going to venture a guess here, judging by your answer to Clair, how you might answer. Actually, just speaking for myself, but hey, sounds good.
Feminism in the context that it was originally meant isn’t the problem here, but the way it has been radicalized is. We’ve gotten to a stage in our society where popular culture tells us that in order to be enlightened, we must only focus on what benefits ourselves. Look at celebrities. Pretty much every one on their 3rd + marriage, kids from different fathers being dropped off in daycare, when they’re not needed for a photo shoot. Heck, I remember a few years ago, some actress gushing about how she could go online to see her kid in a live video feed while she works.
Pretty much, everything has become disposable, and why worry about your spouse’s needs, when if it gets difficult, just move on to someone else. No need for life to get complicated.
I’m using popular culture as examples, because in my personal life, I know many couples who are on their first/ only marriage, who focus on the family, and don’t have all this drama going on. But then again, I guess I can say that I know them because I choose to associate with these kind of people, or at least to the best of my knowledge I do.
We’ve (women) put ourselves into a bad position, where if you go by the standards of today, sex is free, and why value something/ someone that costs you nothing to get?
I have spent my life doing things out of the ordinary, but now I’m pretty much a feminazi’s worst nightmare. I left my career of eight years to raise my daughter, because my priority is now about something other than myself. I didn’t have a child for someone else to raise it. My husband and I are a team, because by working together, we ensure that our family is successful, and our kids (more coming someday) will have the best chance we can provide them to have a good life. It’s not all about me, and it’s not all about him. Someday, I’ll work again. Ok, redefine that, because as anyone who has tried to dress a toddler during her “clothing optional” phase of life knows, that’s work, dammit!
Anyway, by far i am not making the mistake of lumping all women in this catagory, like most of the posters in the MABTW site do.
(Sorry, Ladylessons, but I’ve been reading through the site, and they do. Personally, I think it would be far more constructive if they tried to do something to fix what’s broken, rather than trash all women. I think that Dick Masterson is capitalizing on a target population of angry men, so that he can feed off them and make money. I’m open to correction if I’m wrong, but I’ve seen nothing on promoting anything like Father’s Rights organizations, promoting legislation to contact congressmen to level the legal system in divorce custody cases, or anything to do with problem solving, just a lot of coffee mugs, t-shirts, and book sales.)
Back to subject, I do think that our society, however, now tells us that it is ok to do all this stuff, which has dragged our cultural ethical and moral standards in the dirt. Consequence free society, do whatever you want, don’t judge anyone because they had a bad childhood which excuses all their actions, don’t take responsibility for yourself.
Anyway, been on my soapbox a bit. Now, for the ultimate in non-pc-dom, Merry Christmas!
Clair wrote:
“I’m assuming because your here, you’re against feminism, but isn’t it because of feminism that you were able to do that?”
Clair, read my response again. If you haven’t figured it out, I’m WAAAAAY older than you…I was your age when “women’s liberation” was just starting…there WASN’T any “feminism” active in the society. So, NO, I am not here due to that, I am here due to (a) working VERY hard at what I did, whether it’s a job or sports or whatever and NOT expecting special treatment because I’m female, and (b) undertanding and working with the “men’s rules” out in the workforce and understanding/working as a team member, and not expecting special treatment with a Princess Attitude. I’m from a COMPLETELY different generation and time. Girls of your age cannot even conceive of what it was like during those years and it’s women of my generation who DID become the only woman in a law class or whatever who opened the doors for the young women of your generation (and the generation just ahead of you) to do whatever you wish to do in life.
As to femininism…it’s like reading about various political philosophies, Clair. YOu can read all about Marxism and it sounds marvelous…until you try to put it into action in the real world and find that the “ideal” doesn’t match “reality”. Feminism is similar…sounds realllly great if you are just reading or hearing the words, but much of the actual implementation has gone awry. At least this is my opinion.
If you disagree with all I say here, that’s fine! I’m not here to “convert” people, I’m here to raise a voice saying that it’s NOT all well and good being on ANY extreme. I would not EVER want to live in the extreme situation many middle eastern women find within areas that are run by radicals, but neither do I want to live in a feminazi society.
In allllll my posts on MABTW, I am forever saying this: Balance, people, balance.
@Lynn, you wrote:
“i am not making the mistake of lumping all women in this catagory, like most of the posters in the MABTW site do.
(Sorry, Ladylessons, but I’ve been reading through the site, and they do. Personally, I think it would be far more constructive if they tried to do something to fix what’s broken, rather than trash all women.”
It may surprise you a bit, but I actually agree with you there. I think if you read my own posts, you’ll see that I have said this very thing many times (and had some very critical responses from a few of the men as a result…but I have stuck to my guns there).
One of the things I noticed is the vast difference between the “main page” style and the “forum” style. In the Forum, once you get into reading the back and forth of many of the discussions, there ARE men who don’t want to just sit and complain, but want to help to fix things and make it better. Absolutely, Lynn, there are some guys here who are “radical”, I’m not denying that. But, I am hoping that by just being here and offering a sensible and usually logical female view that I can perhaps reach a few who “get stuck” in their anger and try to offer suggestions, ideas or facts to make THEM think about what they CAN do. Many of these Gents WANT to have a good woman in their lives, want to have families and be happy…they are just banging their heads against the results of extreme feminism and today’s attitudes. I do NOT “whitewash” all the men here and think each one is just the best representation of masculinity and manhood…clearly, there are a few who are so angry I doubt they’ll ever recover and they don’t WANT to. I leave them to themselves. After all, we EACH must make our own path and decisions in life, and there’s nothing more difficult to work with than a closed mind. It’s the larger percentage here who have open minds and hearts and who are just trying to make it day to day in real life that I speak to…and again, it’s just MY opinion. I defend even the “difficult men” in their own opinions…I have not lived their lives or dealt with their issues any more than they really understand me or my life or my issues. We’re all just trying to meet somewhere in the middle to understand each other as best we can.
As to Dick’s modus operendi: first, he’s trying to pay for the site and make some profit, so the tshirts, mugs, etc., do not bother me in the least.
AS to the fact that he has not promoted anything about Men’s Rights or Father’s Rights groups, you are spot on…and because of you insight there, I intend to contact him and suggest that perhaps we have some spot on the site offering this information. Excellent point, Lynn…thank you!
Cheers
VL
umm, ok. I hope you didn’t think I was being mean, when I mention that stuff it comes across as it. It’s not met ok,
Lyn said “Feminism in the context that it was originally meant isn’t the problem here, but the way it has been radicalized is.”
I really really liked that, because I agree with that. Yes I know I’m young, and because of that I get alot less credibility, but I choose to reveal my age because , maybe people will understand where I’m coming from better. But eh…:P Anyway, I really really do support feminism….but I get the notion that what I’m supporting isn’t called feminism anymore, because radicals sorta changed the meaning.
Yes, Clair, I agree with Lynn there about feminism wasn’t inherently “bad” but its radicalized form is…I’ve mentioned that concept on the Forum a few times myself, and in a way, it upsets me that what BEGAN as a good idea has been so corrupted over time.
And,NOPE, I didn’t think you meant anything mean at all! I just wanted you to understand that when you said I was here because of feminism getting me here (and by “here” I figured you meant where I’ve gotten in my life) that feminism had nothing to do with it as there wasn’t much of it back when I was 17!
Yeah, I don’t think you are supporting “feminism” exactly…I think you’re supporting “sensibility”…giving fair props to EITHER sex for their inherent aspects. Men and women are DIFFERENT and have different needs, roles in life and ways of expressing themselves…forcing either sex into a diminished value is wrong. Each sex has wonderful aspects and these differences are there for a reason.
Anyway, thanks for your comments!
VL
As for men and women having different roles in life, unless ur talking about the obvious (mother father ect) then I have to disagree, sure they are VERY different, in many ways, but I think ultimately we are the same in the sense that we deserve the same rights, responsibilities and opportunities. I think gender assumptions are wrong, and people like rob c only reinforce this negative view. Each person is different, and deserves a fair go at what ever (and out comes the Aussie in me
) they choose to do in life, there sex should neither hinder their prospects nor enhance them.
@ VL (victorian Lady?)
What burns me when I see people taking advantage of a situation by setting themselves up as a spokesperson, but doing nothing to fix the wrong that they address. For example, look at some of today’s “civil right’s leaders.” They get people fired up about the wrongs in their lives, but in reality do nothing to fix the problems, because if the problems were fixed they wouldn’t be able to make a profit. Instead, (which is the part that really gets to me) they exacerbate the problems in order to ensure that the problems continue, so that in turn, their profit is ensured. One might make the argument, “who cares how he makes a living?” but when it impacts the kind of society my kid gets to grow up in, I care. However, if he genuinely tries to make it a better world for men, I can respect that.
(continuing my train of thought)
I know I’m also a bit of an idealist, so I tend to get stuck on causes at times. I’ve been the target of these kind of attacks, so it’s easy for me to take this type of website too personally because of that. I also know men have had a raw deal as a result of the radicalized feminism of the past couple decades. I’m tired of our society being torn apart over this, especially as it impacts my kid’s future. In our age of free sex, I have to worry about the “enlightened” teachers teaching her that it’s ok to have sex as long as a condom is used, and if something goes wrong, she can have an abortion without any parental notification. As you wrote about in another blog, kids fashion is on par with Britney Spears and Bratz dolls. Heck, look at “Gossip Girls,” there’s some wholesome entertainment for you. Kids get married young, and without a lot of forethought, and that’s ok because you’ve got no-fault divorce now. Three kids, multiple fathers? Ah well. Heck, why worry about having a husband at all, you just need mom to raise the kids. You have a boy? Weeell, send him to the University of Delaware, get some training in how he’s a closet racist. Does he play lacross? Better watch out, get your legal bills paid.
I just wish problem solving was more important than problem dwelling/ making.
Lynn, all are excellent points in your recent posts. Part of why I am here is to offer at least one small drop in the barrel towards helping folks get into problem solving rather than dwelling on how it is and that they aren’t happy with it. And, absolutely, the attitude and environment that kids are now being raised in is not healthy.
(Oh, and yes, my “VL” means I am Victorian Lady on the Forum.)
Thanks for your thoughts and ideas!
Cheers,
VL
Hey, I’ve been in the wrong place all this time- I’m so glad to hear from some women- I really enjoy the main site- I have to pry myself away from it- but I’m starting to get worn down- it’s getting depressing to read the women’s comments on there- “Samantha LO”- the lattest disaster who posted in “want to know –million” - Yowza. I have read a few post so far, but I’ll probably actually be spending more time here- I know I’m not supposed to be there anyway.
@Clair-I’m about 9 years older than you, and I’m probably going to spend the next 9 recovering from feminist propaganda. Some things abotu that movement were good, I think- some of the backlashes have been disasterous. Here is an example of something retarded and harmful that I thought was valuable information for the longest time, because of feminist literature:
“Real” women don’t trust men.
I’m kind of like you- I like doing outdoors stuff, and active- I’m happy with myself and don’t have a lot of the problems girly girls have with being caught up with the physical- But I have always thought that I had to choose between being feminine (which I equated with weakness, disaster, loss of control) and being what I am/doing the things I like– I don’t think it has to be like that.
And you know, cooking is really fun- I never did it until I had a kid, and I associated it with domesticity, so stayed away, and always talked about how I hated it- I love it now- and the best cook I know is my brother.
See, hi! I’ve seen your interesting posts on the Forum and it’s good to hear from you here.
Cheers,
Victorian Lady (VL…LadyLessons)
Hey See..hm, I don’t have a problem with being feminine, or masculine. Its all subjective anyway. S what ever category u think i fall in, i really dont mind. im happy being me, im just myself- if that happens to be wat u call feminine, cool, if thats what u call masculine, again cool.
Of course people judgments of me matters to an extent, im only human, but it doesnt make me change the way i am. i used to be in love with WWE wrestling…(Eddie Guerrero was and is still my favourite
) I used to get hammered non-stop, coz “thats a boy thing”..pfft, it made me happy. What ever makes you happy, is right for you. stick with it.
im happy u found what makes u happy
@ clair I never got into that kind of wrestling- I did watch it when I was a kid- do you know about the bushwackers, macho man randy savage, and miss Elizabeth- that’s who I remember? - but I love UFC now- They had a great fight on my birthday this year-
so, which clair are you?
Hehe, Im not into it anymore. Im scarred…after Eddie died, I just can’t watch it anymore…but i did see it TWICE live when they came here. Hehe BUt I think I heard of the Bush Bashers..maybe..were they the ones that had the gimmick of Aussies? And OF COUSRE I heard of Randy Savage!!
UFC is pretty awesome, I dont watch many fights anymore tho, Im over it. Boxing is good to…go Danny Green..tehe
Im the same Clair as MABTW…if ur wondering if im Aussie Clair or Oprah Clair…Im Aussie clair…tehe…for kicks, call Oprah Clair fat and watch her crumble…hahaha, thats mean, buts shes mean to..
sorry Freudian slip…Bush Whackers….*blushes* hehe
VL,
I posted a comment on December 13th and it still says “Your comment is awaiting moderation.”
I like how more women are posting on here. I’ve been trying to get more.
I watched Dick on Dr. Phil and THIS time I saw him as a perfect Gentlemen.=)
Hi Kebby!
Egad, yes, I got your previous comment…I wasn’t trying to stop it. And, thanks for trying again… for some reason even though I hit the “apply” button, nothing happened…it kept saying that it was posted, but when I would check the actual blog it wasn’t there. I had planned to email you to give it another go, but then I was in the hospital and I’ve just now gotten back on the computer.
Kebby, thanks for directing more ladies here…and hopefully, there won’t be any more “hiccups” on the Wordpress! Feel free to repeat or directly email if you have posts which don’t seem to show up in the future.
Cheers,
VL
I hope everything is OK with you! I hate to hear you were in the hospital. Hope you have a Merry Christmas and a wonderful, safe and healthy New Year.
Cheers as well,
Keb
I will say this: It’s nice to have a good time with the holidays. I, however, relax during these times of year and just enjoy things with family. I don’t like, go to extravagant lengths [I’m a simple man and like things simple and relaxed], I just live to enjoy the company of those I care about.
Nice idea this site about ladies. But I am not so sure it is feminism responsible for women being bitch. Teenage girls make fun of other girls appearance. They usually choose one ore two girls which they make fun of so they look better when compared.
And this has nothing to do with feminism.
Usually nothing is wrong with those unfortunate girls but they discover it too late. They thought about themselves as monsters and not able to attract any men´s attention. Young teenage girls do not care about feminism. It is just they are bitches and it is because of evil character not feminism. Perhaps something bad is happening some poor women somewhere but I only tell myself hmmm maybe she is innocent but perhaps she is one those bitches with no hart at all so who cares. Every action has consequences they receive only what deserve.
Few women are grown up, responsible and nice to be with around. Usually they watch properly every details about other people lives so they can use it to manipulate and make conflicts.
And they like it creating every possible drama. They seem to feed on it like vampires. I believe my husband and perhaps some men in my life but I have to be careful about women. It is just my experience.